Don't expect to meet your perfect match on the first try. Finding someone online works pretty much the same way
as finding someone offline. It takes some time to get to know that person before you can have any real idea if the
person is right for you or not.
Don't compromise your principles; but at the same time, keep your expectations reasonable. No one is ever going to possess every single
quality on your criteria list.
Don't take it personally if someone doesn't reply to your messages. The great thing about a service like Lovebyrd.com is that you have hundreds of possibilities to choose from. If someone isn't responding to your messages just keep searching until you make that love connection.
Fill out your ad completely. Not only are you searching for your perfect match but your perfect match is also searching for you. By filling out your ad completely, you allow your perfect match to find you more easily.
Post a photo! There is no reason to be shy about posting your photo. Ask yourself--Don't I prefer to see a face behind the ad I'm viewing?. People viewing your ad feel the same way. Members respond to ads with photos sooner than they respond to ads with no photo.
Having problems uploading your photo? A member support representative can help. Contact support for help adding a photo to your ad.
Get involved! Read the message boards. Post to the message boards. Let other members see and hear you.
Be careful about how soon you agree to meet someone in person. Take some time to get to know someone before you make arrangements to meet them in person. Sometimes you will encounter individuals who may turn out not to be quite so nice in person. It is a good idea to keep the relationship virtual for a while. Chat online in the lovebyrd chatrooms, exchange messages, share photos and stories. Ask questions and do your due diligence before you make arrangements to
meet another member in person.
If you have agreed to meet someone you met on Lovebyrd.com in person please take the following precautions
Arrange to meet in a public place
Arrange to meet at an hour when your public meeting place is active with other people milling about
Let someone know where you are going and what time you should be expected to return
If possible let someone know who you are going to meet and leave a contact information for your date as well
If you tend to get nervous, don't do things that will only heighten your nervousness. For example, if you are uncomfortable in certain shoes, don't wear those shoes on your first date if you're already going to be nervous. You'll be even more uncomfortable than your neverousness by itself already makes you. Minimize your stress factors by preparing for them. If you are more nervous when you have to sit in a restaurant in front of someone and hold a conversation, go out to a movie instead.
Relax and be yourself. At the end of the day, if someone cannot like you for being who you are, you don't need that person in your life; so don't put on an act. Be yourself; and by the same token, don't judge your date by any preset standards. Take your date for who he/she is. And be honest. If you come away from the date feeling you're not compatible, it's better to say so than to pretend you had a blast and would love to do it again.
Don't let your personal hangups about your disability sabotage the occasion. Sometimes we are so self-conscious about our physical condition that we start to think the entire world is looking at us and laughing at us. We compare ourselves to the people around us and let feelings of inadequacy overtake us and prevent us from enjoying ourselves. You are not defined by your disability, so don't let your disability represent you on your date.
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[size=24:8214899037][color=indigo:8214899037][b]Chevyman57 is flying tomorrow to see Bonnieblue!! :lol: :lol:
What a fantasic event it will be. Their first time meeting after all these months of phone calls and chat. :lol:
He will arrive in N.J. at 7:30 pm....Bonnie will be waitin... Read more
