Showing up with a gift will score you extra points. Yeah, I know, this is the 21st century and attitudes have changed to
where a modern woman doesn't have the same expectations of her date that women had back when there were dating protocols to be followed. Still, bringing a gift
adds a nice touch most women appreciate. And you score points for being sweet and thoughtful. Usually, on a first date, flowers are more appropriate than say a piece of jewelry.
And many women will appreciate flowers over candy as well.
Dress appropriately for the occasion. No more will a suit and tie be appropriate for McDonalds, than ripped, faded jeans and a tie-dyed tee shirt will be appropriate for the ballet. Committing either offense strips you of major quality points. If you don't know what kind of attire is suitable to be worn where ever you have planned to take your date, do a little research.
If you are a smoker or otherwise have troublesome breath, be sure the odor coming out of your mouth is not sabotaging your chances of making an impression with the words you're speaking. Believe it or not bad breath alone can cost you a second date. This is the power of scent. You could have the smoothest voice and the sharpest wit; but if a foul stench emits from your oral cavity
with every spoken word you are more likely to repulse your date than intrigue her.
If your date is going to be involving spending money and you will be expecting your date to pay her own share, you will need to establish this ahead of time. Usually, even in these modern times, when you ask a woman out, it is assumed you are taking the woman out which means you are treating her to a good time at your own expense.
If this is not the case your date needs to know that beforehand so she doesn't show up with no money and has to face the embarrassment when you ask her to pay her half.
Understand that your date does not owe you anything in exchange for you taking her out. Before you commit to the date, make sure that you are willing to risk spending money on a date that might end unpleasantly.
Talk. Being a good conversationalist is as important as being a good listener. If you let your date do all the talking, more than likely she's going to come away from the date thinking that you're boring or you didn't like her. Either way, unless she's one of those who likes one-sided conversations for the freedom they allow her to talk on and on about every detail of her life, she's not going to be an eager beaver when and if you call for a second date.
Don't go overboard with the staring. You can be pleased with how your date looks. Nothing's wrong with appreciating her beauty; but exaggerated staring makes you appear somewhat psychotic. Your date will be uncomfortable and you will look like a freak so tell her she's attractive and let that be the end of that. Don't stare her down thinking you'll score points if you act like you can't keep your eyes off her.
Leave your complaints and hangups about life at home. There's little long term benefit to getting your date to feel sorry for you by telling her how terrible your life is. She might feel sorry for you yes, but there's little liklihood she will want to jump into the swamp to share in your miseries with you.
The 2010 Paralympics games from Vancouver begin today. The games, or at least some of the games, will be carried on NBC/USA networks here in the US.
I have setup a Facebook page for the Paralympics Curling team that can be found here:
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